But It’s Not Really A Problem.

So, guys, I have a problem. I mean, you might not find it a problem. I don’t find it a problem at all. But some people have commented on my problem so I feel like I need to confess.

I have…

…a pumpkin obsession in the fall.

I do. It’s nuts. I would have the entire sim FULL of pumpkins right now if I could. I’m guessing Lolita wouldn’t like me messing up her landscaping work with just massive pumpkins all over, though. And because I love my sister and don’t want her to bop me on the head, I’ve been keeping my pumpkins to our yard.

Last night, Birdy and I found ourselves alone, and well… I might be passing my pumpkin love onto her.

Pumpkin Picker!

But I mean, I truly don’t see a problem. I can stop any time I want. You know, like in a couple of months when suddenly it’s Christmas time and everything is snowy and minty and my new obsession begins…

Christmas lights.

(If you like the pose we’re doing, I do have it up on Marketplace now. All the money I make from my poses fund my videos when I have to buy something!)

Your Heart I Will Choose

Oh God. I can’t even give an excuse as to why I haven’t posted in here. *laughs* If you follow me on youtube, you know I’ve been doing more videos than anything lately. I need to really find some dang balance with everything.

But anyway… Guess what? We just celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary!! Isn’t that CRAZY?? Well, Aldwyn says it’s not really crazy. But still…crazy!

We did laugh, though, thinking about some of the people who said that I was just the “flavor of the month,” even though by the time they said it, we’d been together for almost half a year. I’m still the best flavor, suckers!!

Instead of having a big party or anything, all I really wanted to do was hang out with my little family. It was actually kind of a big night for us!

Your Heart I Will Choose

I’ve mentioned the SL adoption-to-birthing process before in a previous post. Not in really great detail or anything, I’m sure. But as simply as I can explain it: Some parents in SL choose to “birth” their adopted children. It’s a symbolic thing more than anything else. The child is not considered adopted anymore, but a true born child of the parents. Now most parents who do this, the mom goes through the SL pregnancy process – belly bump, labor, and all! Even complete with a prim baby in most cases! But this was not something I was interested in doing. I didn’t want to look pregnant [blogging would be difficult!] and I didn’t want to do the labor thing or have a Zooby baby of the girls. *laughs* I just didn’t. BUT, the whole symbolic thing appealed to me. Because well…they just feel like ours. So I felt like it was time.

I made a video for the girls. [It’s private, but I’ll share one day.] They loved it! Then I presented them with new birth certificates, and the whole family with rings with a Z on them. I actually want to get proper signet rings for everyone one day.

After that, we went on a mushroom hunt! It was the neatest thing. We got to hunt mushrooms and make potions that sometimes made mushrooms grow from our heads. It was soooo cute! We also carved some pumpkins as practice for next month!

It was really a wonderful evening, and the best wedding anniversary.โค

Ooh Lord, so much rambling.

Hey guys! So… I’ve been bad about updating over here. *laughs* I’m sorry!! Aldwyn says it’s like I took this blog and just moved it over to YouTube, which I guess is kind of true in a way. But I am going to get better about updating because let’s face it. I’m way better at writing than I am at just talking because at least here, I can backspace and edit things down and not sound like a dummy!

But, today is obviously not that day because I did another video! This one is just me talking about my first life and stuff. You guys who have been reading a while probably know all of this already, but if you’re interested in listening to me, here’s the video. Until next time! โ™ฅ

We Could Be Related

One of the things I said I wouldn’t do for a LONG time, if ever, was get a mesh head. I know, I know. If you’ve known me for any length of time, you know that I was one of the first to hop all aboard the mesh train when it came out in 2011. In fact, the day it rolled live, I blogged one of the first mesh dresses that came out that day. If you joined SL after 2012, you don’t know how crazy the mesh revolution was. How nothing fit properly, how standard sizing changed a lot of how we looked, how a simple couch could have eaten up 100 prims of your parcel allotment, or why we still refer to things as mesh, rather than just calling it what it is, or just how many designers we lost when mesh came out because they were unable – or unwilling – to keep up and learn how to make it.

I don’t think we quite realized the impact mesh would make on Second Life. In fact, in that blog post, I’m quoted as saying, “Yes, mesh gives us some great things, but there will always ALWAYS be the need for regular prims, textures and sculpties.”

Hahahahaha! Oh.

I was thrilled to wear mesh clothing. I was even more thrilled to get new mesh furniture that wasn’t 12 prims [or Land Impact for you newbies] for a simple pillow. I danced with joy to dump my sculpted feet and put on mesh ones. I waved my sad system hands in the air for the last time and slipped on pretty mesh ones. I loved the way I no longer had to Photoshop my pointed calves and square butt once I got a mesh body.

But heads? OH HECK NO.

I loved my avatar’s face. I am one of those rare bloggers in SL who has never changed skins too often just because once I look like “me,” that’s kind of it for me for a while. I like to look and feel like myself. I’ve always demoed a lot of skins for fun, but when it comes to day to day SLiving, I like being me. So the thought of covering my face with a head that didn’t really look like ME? Pfft. No, thank you. I did demo some but none felt right to me. I liked the way I looked and that’s that.

While we were on our last vacation, Aldwyn [who was WAY quicker to get into a mesh head than I would have expected] decided that I needed a mesh head. I believe the conversation went something like this:

Aldwyn: You need one.

Me: But whyyyyyyyyyy?????

Aldwyn: Because.

Me: I don’t want it.

Aldwyn: I don’t care.

* You have received a gift! *

Me: …this isn’t the one I wanted.

So he bought me two heads that night, LOGO’s Alex and Chloe. And, being me, I decided that if he was going to spend the money on me, I was certainly not going to let it go to waste. So I put on the Chloe head and told myself not to take it off for at least a week.

It’s been over a week. *laughs*

Surprisingly enough, I fell in love with the thing. I wear no appliers because the base skin is perfect for how I want to look. I hadn’t really seen my system face in months. But I decided to give it a look last night, and then couldn’t resist taking a side by side picture with myself. [It’s not perfect. I’m not great at the cloning thing.]

We Could Be Related

I still like my system face. But… goodness, I look SO much younger! I feel like my mesh head looks polished and older, while the system face is someone you’d find hanging out at the beach on spring break. Or like my system headed self is my younger sister who was trying to hit on my husband. LOL! My plurk friends say that both are similar, and they are in some ways, I guess. I think I can tell more of a difference just because I’ve spent the past however many years staring at myself.

Have you switched to a mesh head yet? Which ones do you like? If you haven’t done it, why not? Do you plan on it? I have questions!๐Ÿ™‚

But I Thought They Were Going To Disney?!

So last month, Abby and Birdy came to me very excited. A camp was going to be happening in July, and would it be possible for them to go? It wouldn’t even cost us a cent other than buying the normal supplies. Well, of course I said yes! All kids need a summer camp and with Camp Hardknock no longer in business, I was glad that they found one that they were interested in. This would be a great chance for them to get away for a week, have some fun, and hopefully meet some new friends. They said the camp is actually going to be happening at Disney! They will be taking a train with other campers all the way to Disney. We heard that there might have been some problems with the train tracks… but hey, I’m sure they have it fixed by now. Although I also heard that last camp, the plane to Disney got lost with the kids on it. Maybe that’s why they’re taking the train this year?

They leave for camp on Saturday, so today we started packing them up. Camp girls need lots of things, like surfboards and dolls and spare underpants and…

But I Thought They Were Going To Disney?!

Wait. Why do these girls think they need a bow and arrows, a sword, tactical gear, and a…bomb case?! What in the world?!

Hmm. Why do I get the feeling there’s more to this camp than they are telling me?

PS: I said no to the tactical gear and bomb case. I’m a good mom, after all.


One great thing about having this blog and having blogged so much of my Second Life is that I can go back and read things again. One awful thing about having this blog and having blogged so much of my Second Life is that I can go back and read things again.


I’ve been re-reading posts here and there from around 2008. And while some of the things I did or said make me laugh even now, part of me is a bit sad because I miss so many people who are no longer in my life. Especially my friend Cen.

Let me just preface what I’m about to say with this: I love my SLife. I do. I love my family and my home and my blogs and all that. I love doing videos. I am truly happy with how things are.

However… Lately I have just been feeling like something is missing. And I think that it’s that sometimes I miss having a best girl friend inside of SL. Just someone to chat with and laugh with that will be up for adventures and all that best friend stuff. Things like Cen and I used to do for a while.

One of the main reasons that I don’t really have that right now is that my tastes and needs have changed over the years. I don’t like being “super sexy” or half naked all the time. Even though I’m a fashion blogger, I am not super high fashion. I don’t really enjoy going out to troll people. Going to go hang out at “adult fun” venues is not really my cup of tea. I’m not going to be on Skype constantly during the day. And unfortunately, most of my existing friends, which are primarily on plurk, are into all that. Which is fine for them! I’m not saying that it’s not, trust me. It’s just not really for me right now. I would prefer to be with someone who is more family friendly, keeps their clothes on most of the time, who is around my age or older, who enjoys chatting in off and on in IMs or just hanging out in world but doesn’t go AFK every 2 minutes when we’re having a conversation, who isn’t constantly talking about how they “give no f*cks”, and who isn’t overly clingy or needs a ton of my attention.

*laughs* Geez, I don’t ask for much, huh?

I don’t know. I like friendships to develop organically and unfortunately, I tend to be very shy and I don’t really put myself out there that much. Maybe I’ve simply forgotten how to be a good friend in SL? I’m not the type to always be in someone’s IM or even need daily interaction and … I don’t know. Maybe that’s wrong?

Bah. I’m getting emo for no dang reason.๐Ÿ™‚

Honestly, I am very happy with my SLife and the people in it. I was just having some “I need a friend” thoughts over the weekend. It’ll pass.

Enjoying The Day

So this has been kind of a cool week for me.๐Ÿ™‚ I have actually been chatting with people who watch my videos! That was an unexpected side effect of doing YouTube. *laughs* I want to do another video kind of just chatting about that, so I’ll save my thoughts for another day. But it’s been cool, most definitely.

Another thing is that I’ve gotten some wonderful feedback on my post about family! I kind of didn’t expect that either! People can be super judgmental about something they don’t quite understand or aren’t interested in, so it’s been great getting comments and IMs and stuff about it. So today I’ve just been relaxing in SL [because lord, it is HOT outside in RL and I can’t even with that right now]. Luckily in SL, I can relax and enjoy the day and not fry to a crisp.

Enjoying The Day

I had a comment in my last post with a question and I thought I’d answer that here rather than in a video just because I tend to get long winded at times and since I’m subjecting you all to probably another 30 minute video on Friday [Luxe Box opening!], I figured I’d just write.๐Ÿ™‚

So Kate asked what I thought about virtual pregnancies. Honestly, I think what you want to do in your SL is your business. For me personally, it’s not something I’m interested in, but I truly understand people who do them.

I mentioned my friend Renee in my post about family. She was one of those people who went through a virtual pregnancy because in her real life, there was no way she could possibly get pregnant. She wanted to experience some form of motherhood and pregnancy, so that’s what she did and she enjoyed it. Again, I think that is probably one of the best uses of SL – doing things that you truly want and would never ever get to experience in the RL.

Now I know that when people think of virtual pregnancy, they think of 2 things. One, those dang tummy talkers that yell at you if you bump the mom, or let the whole world know when your baby wants you to eat your vitamin or is swelling your ankles. Trust me, I’m just as annoyed by those as anyone else. *laughs* And two, they think of prim babies, like the Zooby babies. And for a lot of people, that’s as far as it goes. But there is another side to the virtual pregnancies that, if you’re not in the family community, you might not know about.

It’s not uncommon for parents who have adopted kids in SL to later “birth” the child. No, not like… no, not like you’re thinking. LOL! I know what you’re thinking. But the mother goes through the traditional virtual pregnancy knowing that at the end, the “baby” is their adopted child. It’s more symbolic than anything else. Once the child is born, they are no longer considered an adopted child, but instead are considered a true born child. Actually, our friends Jill and Gattz have done this with all of their kids, and you can read about Jill’s last pregnancy on their blog here. Like I said, it’s more symbolic than anything else, although I think most of the people who do this do get a Zooby baby named after the child.

Now would I “birth” Abby and Birdy? Uhh… probably not. *laughs* I mean, if it was something they truly needed, I would do it. I understand the meaning behind it. But I don’t really have an interest.

So really, like most things in SL, I think virtual pregnancies comes down to “You do you.”

But for real. Turn your stupid tummy talker off. No one wants to hear it.