So, there are two things that have been bugging me lately in SL. Not huge bugs, but little bugs.
I’m probably the queen of “Don’t want to bother anyone.” SL or RL, I don’t want to bother anyone even if I’m sick, if I’m upset, if I need help, etc. I won’t IM anyone or call them. But more and more I’m hearing people spending almost all their SL nights alone, no one to talk to, because they’re like me. We are not talking to each other because we all think we’re all busy! When did THIS happen?
I’ll admit that sometimes I am busy. Sometimes I am doing photos, or I’m writing, or I’m….ahem…farming. :-p But I am almost never too busy to IM. I’m not the best conversationalist, but if you talk to me, I will usually talk back.
It makes me wonder how many people on my friends list are sitting there wondering if it’s ok to IM me to just chat, and not just to ask me a question, which is what most of my IMs are. Unless it’s Sophia, who is almost always in my IM box while we just talk about random stuff. She’s almost the only person I do this with. Maybe my new challenge will be to just IM random people on my list to say hi.
Now, the second thing that really bugs me is something we seem to go through every year. What’s with the pretty avatar hate?! I have friends of different shapes and sizes, although they’re all pretty proportionate by choice. But when I read comments, such as the ones in this New World Notes post about how people just flat out won’t talk to the “Barbie” style avatars…well, doesn’t that make them just as much of a bitch as they perceive the pretty avatars to be? I’m more about proportion than I am looks. If you want to have your boobs to 100 and your hips to 10, uh, yeah…I might think that you need some help. But I wouldn’t just NOT talk to someone because of their shape. I have a pretty avatar. I have worked hard to make my avatar into something I find pretty. Does it mean that someone might not talk to me because I’m slim and blonde? What kind of crap is that? In the physical world, I’m overweight and brunette. I am the girl who is overlooked at clubs, who has eaten lunch alone, who doesn’t instantly attract people. But according to some of what I hear…in SL because I’m pretty, I’ll be the girl who is passed over in clubs, who sits alone on her wall, who doesn’t get the attention. But someone who looks different, in a bigger avatar, or a over-sexualized one, who is more of an “individual,” [I freaking hate that. We’re all different.] will get all the congratulations for not being a “Barbie.”
If you won’t talk to someone just based on them being what YOU term “Barbie,” then you’re just as horrible as you think the “model” type avatars are. Because guess what? We’re all just people sitting at computers, usually in our pajamas or sweatpants, snorting with laughter over something stupid someone said. If there’s anything I’ve learned in the past few months, it’s that. 🙂
Speaking of pajamas, I just bought new stuff at Bath & Body Works today, so I think I’m going to take a shower and get into my PJs so I can go back to snorting at silly things in SL.
Ali’s Thanks of the Day: I’m thankful for beauty in SL, but also for the incredibly silly people who are just like me – nerding out in front of the computer in our pajamas. 😉