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Hashtag DearMe

YouTube has been doing this pretty cool thing with women called #DearMe where the ladies all give advice to their younger selves. I’m not on youtube or anything, but I thought, hey, why can’t I give my younger avatar advice? It’s been over 8 years since I first came to SL and I’ve learned stuff! So I’m going to write a letter to myself on the day before I started SL in 2006.

Hashtag DearMe

Dear Me,

Tomorrow you’re going to do something. You’re going to join a world unlike any you’ve been to before. You’re going to think it’s like The Sims, but it’s not. You’re going to think that you’ll only be there for a couple of weeks, but you won’t. What you’re about to do is going to seem like no big deal but in fact it will change your entire life forever.

You’re going to learn so many lessons and I want you to pay attention to each one. You’re going to hurt people. This doesn’t make you a bad person no matter how much people tell you that you are a bad person. You’re going to be hurt by people and this doesn’t make you a person who deserves the hurt. It’s life and it happens. When you apologize to certain people, they won’t accept it. You’ll learn that it is not your problem if they do not. You don’t need to beat yourself up. On the night things explode, you do not need to hurt yourself.

Because you know what? All of the hurt and the lies and the disappointments lead to something better. Oh my god, do they lead to better things!!

You’re going to do something that is hard. You’re going to start over by yourself. But you’re going to meet people who have started over, too. Those people are going to teach you that being yourself is the best thing to be. They aren’t going to judge you for your past but they will love you for the person you become. I won’t say you won’t hurt again. You will. But that is how things are and you will learn so many things from your mistakes!

What I want to tell you is to not be afraid. You’re going to meet some of the best people in the world, people who will make you feel loved every single day of your life. You’ll learn skills that you never would have learned in an office. You’ll have ideas and reclaim your love for music and remember that you’ve always been a creative person.

And you will laugh. You’ll laugh loudly and you’ll laugh often! You will feel the magic of having a great SLife deep in your heart. All of this will spill over into all aspects of your life. When times are dark and you have hard things to do when you’re not at the computer, you will be safe in knowing that many people who love you are just a click away. You deserve all this. You will learn to enjoy the adventure. You’ll discover that life doesn’t offer just one choice, but many choices. It doesn’t offer just one chance, but many, many chances. You’ll learn that there is nothing to regret. And you’ll learn…eventually…to just let all of the bad things go.

You’re going to have an amazing time. Good luck!


2 thoughts on “Hashtag DearMe

  1. Wow your letter really hit my soft spot. i cried when i read it because thats exactly how i have felt for so many years since starting sl. Its taken me 5 years to figure out what you just summed up in your letter…. So thank you for writing that
    – hugs to you from a Fan

  2. This was one of the best blog posts I have read in a long time. It made me cry also. I am so lucky to be a part of your Second life. I love you!

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