Posted in birdy, Jeremiah, love, Uncategorized, update

January Update

I keep coming in here and starting posts and getting distracted and forgetting what I meant to write about. I guess I’ve lost the knack for really blogging. I’m trying to write more lately over on the style blog, but after years of basically doing a picture and credits because I was told that’s what people wanted, it’s hard. But I’m trying anyway.

SLife has been really good lately. Oh! Oh my gosh. I .. wow, I just went back to re-read my last post and realized that I have BARELY said anything! For all you guys know (if you don’t follow me on Facebook or Plurk) is that I started dating someone new a while back. Um…

Christmas Gift

That’s right, we’re engaged! I know, some of you are probably like, “Wow, every time I look, you’re engaged.” To which I say…bite me. πŸ™‚

Jeremiah makes me so incredibly happy, you guys. He just GETS me in a way that no other man in SL has done before. Now listen, I’ve been with some really good guys in SL. I am not talking badly about them at all. But when someone truly understands who you are, just the way you are, right in that moment? It’s priceless. He’s not going along with things I want just because. He’s not waiting for me to change to fit what he wants. I get to be just who I am right now. Do you even know how incredible that is for someone like me? I tend to think people don’t like who I am, or that they want something from me, or that I’m not good enough to be around. He doesn’t make me feel like that. I always feel wanted and loved.

I think one of the best parts about all of of this is how quickly Jeremiah picked up on being a father to my little Birdy.

My Loves

They absolutely adore each other. I did not let him meet her for a little while. I wanted to make sure that he would be staying in my life. I didn’t want to be one of those stupid SL girls who was in lovelovelove for 3 days and then single again. And plus, I had some other stuff going on and there were hurt feelings and weirdness … well, other things I won’t get into. But I knew, and he knew, pretty quickly that this was meant to be. So one night he finally got to meet her. And y’all. When I say that after 10 minutes I probably could have left and they wouldn’t have noticed? I mean it!! They hit it off so immediately, it was crazy. My beloved nerds. πŸ™‚ (Yes, they make fun of me for not being very nerdy. But they love me anyway. LOL)

I’ve definitely been more immersed in SL lately. More than in the past 2 years combined, I’d say. I am still very into my Twitch streams, of course. But if I’m not streaming or gaming, I’m in SL. It feels like home again.

And the wedding? Oh, it’s gonna happen. We’ve actually got quite a bit of it planned already! Jeremiah is much better at planning than I am, so he has really taken so much pressure off of me as far as the wedding goes because I don’t have so much to do myself. I’ll talk more about wedding plans later.

And…I guess that’s all the update for now!

I...am...CRYING.

Posted in just talking, Uncategorized

Hey, I Do Still Blog!

*walks in*

*blows the dust off this blog yet again*

Hi!

If there is one thing I have learned in the past year, it’s that change is inevitable. And that’s not a bad thing, but it does make for some sporadic blog posts. I don’t even know if anyone still reads this. But this blog really has always been just for me to write down thoughts and randomness, so I guess even if no one else reads it, I can always come back and look on it again.

So… Yeah, all the thoughts I had of keeping up with this blog this year, doing more posts, having more SL time…totally didn’t happen. I have truly been enjoying myself on Twitch and doing my gaming streams over there. It didn’t surprise me so much that I enjoy it, but it did surprise me how much I was willing to give to it. I love doing what I do there. I love meeting people and watching their streams and playing games with them. It’s so much fun, and although it is quite a bit of work, it almost never feels like work. There are some days where the thought of being entertaining is a struggle, and when I truly do want to just chill away from the computer, but I’ve definitely learned that on those days, I really can just take a break. I’m not obligated in any way. And somehow, knowing that makes it so much easier. Day by day, I’ve been learning how to balance everything in my life, both online and off.

So for the nosy ones (kidding!), yes, the wedding never happened. Michael and I broke up in May. Um…or June. Pretty sure it was May. Wow, self. Way to keep up. *laughs* It wasn’t a bad break up. In fact, as far as break ups go, it was probably one of the easiest ones of my entire life. We talked, a few tears were shed, and then we went to go play a video game together. Some people really are just better off as close friends, and we knew that that’s who we are to each other. He is one of my best friends. He’s still one of Birdy’s dads (she has two dads who love her dearly. What a lucky girl she is!) and we still chat almost every day. And…that’s that. No drama. No big craziness. Just two people who love and respect each other enough to know when something isn’t working out.

And if you follow me on my SL facebook, you know there is someone new in my life. It kind of came out of nowhere but yet feels like it was always supposed to be. Does that sound strange? We met over 2 years ago, back when I was vlogging, and talked usually once a month or every other month since, but never anything big. Mostly just “hi, how are you?” Then suddenly it was more than that. He asked me out on a date and I was shocked. I didn’t think guys in SL knew how to plan a date anymore. It was a terribly nice surprise! Going out on a date that I didn’t have to plan and with a guy that I didn’t have to dress?? Get outta here! *laughs* I kind of want to keep things to myself for now, though. At least on the blog. But I can tell you I’m happy. πŸ™‚

I’ll write more later, I’m sure. Being back in SL more often makes me want to write more. ❀

Posted in birdy, michael, Uncategorized, update, wedding

It’ll Happen One Day

So I haven’t had a chance to update lately because we’ve been so so busy! But I thought I’d answer the biggest question I got after the last blog post.

When is the wedding?!

Well…here’s the thing. I don’t know if we’ll do the big wedding extravaganza. I’ve done that before and while it was lovely, I’m a much different person than I was in 2011. Neither of us feel the need to have this big massive thing. In my head, it’s just the 3 of us (Birdy is included, of course!) doing a private little ceremony, maybe with just family in attendance. I do want a wedding dress, but I picture myself in something boho and/or vintage styled. Maybe one of these days, I’ll do a live stream and go dress shopping! But I couldn’t buy anything because Michael does watch my streams, and I’d hate to ruin the surprise. Some traditions MUST be upheld, of course!

I do think that I want a party to celebrate later, though. Nothing massive, just friends and family and music and dancing. Lots of fun!

But other than there being no real news on the wedding front… That’s about all I’ve got. We are all happy when we can spend time together. Trying to balance our time has been a bit of an issue, but we’re definitely working on it.

I hope everyone has had a great February! I really am going to try to update this blog more with our adventures, but that whole balance thing I was talking about kinda makes me push some things to the side. If only there were an extra couple of hours in the day! Someone get to work on that, okay??

Personal Blog: It'll Happen One Day

Posted in changes, love, new beginnings, new things, Uncategorized

Just Say Yes

I’m back!

I know what people really want me to talk about. What happened? Why did I mostly leave Second Life for a time? Why are people who were in my life no longer in my life? There are a lot of questions and I get that. But truthfully? It doesn’t really matter. People are going to believe whatever they want to believe, regardless of what I say. All that really matters now is how I move forward.

And I think that’s where this blog comes in.

At it’s very core, it’s always been about me, and how I keep moving on in Second Life. Long time readers know that I started out one way and kept moving forward through different relationships, different hobbies, different everything.

I want to go back to what this was in the beginning. Stories. Adventures. Being immersed in this SLife that I continue to live. And I really hope, to whoever still reads this, that you’ll enjoy it!

Because you know what?

Everything starts with YES.

Just Say Yes (Personal Blog)

Posted in bloggers, BVN, Groves, Uncategorized

Forcing Myself Into A Panel

Oops. Despite the fact that January was 17 years long, I didn’t update. Wow, self. Way to go on the whole “I’m gonna update this more.” thing I had going. πŸ™‚

SO.. today I filled in at a BVN presentation with Groves. It was about non-traditional blogging – meaning not fashion blogging. Crap Mariner was the other blogger on the panel, but had to leave about midway through and being that I still run a personal SL blog (as bad as I have been at updating it), I hopped up into the seat to talk. If you want to check out the presentation, it was streamed on YouTube. I also had to relog twice, so.. yay me. LOL

It was really fun, and I’m so glad that I was able to go in and help out.

I was actually planning on updating this blog and have a post started, but I am not feeling really great right now, so I’ll finish that up when I feel like sitting at the computer a little more. ❀

Posted in goals, holidays, milestones, Uncategorized

And Now Another Year

Hey y’all! So this is the last blog post in this blog for 2017. Was I good at updating this year? No. LOL! But this is also the 10th anniversary of this blog, so I wanted to do a post.

Last night, I held the 9th New Year’s Eve Eve party. it was SO fun. I met a lot of people that I have only known through YouTube comments, and it was just a really lovely time. My sister decorated the most beautiful spot, and by divine luck, even Aldwyn was able to attend.

Another Year Together

[I say divine luck because it was a Saturday night on a holiday weekend and the fact that he wasn’t working was amazing.]

I think the best part of the party is that I told people that before they left the party, I wanted them to meet at least one person that they didn’t know before and try to make a friend. We bubble ourselves so much at times. Before the party started, some people were saying that they would not know anyone there. I wanted to change that. Especially since at last year’s party, that’s when I met Groves for the first time and a year later, she’s stuck with me. A lot of things can happen in a year.

And you know what? People actually left the party with new friends. So I’d definitely call it a success. πŸ™‚

So. I don’t make new year’s resolutions anymore, but I do make goals.

1. I’ve got to get more healthy in 2018. I know, everyone says that. But I’m not saying I’m going to lose 50 pounds or hit the gym everyday. I just want to do healthier things for my mind and body.

2. I need to learn how to manage my time better. Where some people seem to have 29 hours in a day, I only seem to have 7. There’s got to be some kind of balance in there. I’m determined to find it.

3. I really do want to get more consistent with YouTube, but also I want to do the videos I enjoy more than ones that I feel obligated to do.

4. I’m definitely going to balance out the amount of energy that I give people that I really don’t know. I am always happy to make new friends, but I need to learn that not everyone is going to be a friend, and I don’t need to drain my own energy to make strangers happy.

5. Definitely want to get better at my blog photos. Doing photos in SL is one of my favorite things in the world, and I want to get better at it.

6. I really need to clean up my inventory. But uh… I think I said that last year, too. So we’ll see. LOL

I have other goals, but we’ll leave it there for now. Do you guys make New Year’s goals? Tell me some of them!

I’d make the promise that I’ll be more consistent with updating this blog in 2018, but we know that might not happen. I will still try to update once a month, though. Or I’ll start posting my Youtube videos here. I kinda don’t want to do that just so I can save this blog for writing but hey, you never know.

I want to wish all of you a very Happy New Year and I hope that 2018 is an amazing year for all of us! Please stay safe if you’re going out tonight, because I want to see all of your shiny happy faces in 2018! ❀

Posted in Aldwyn, makeover, mesh, mesh parts, opinions, shopping, Uncategorized

The Day I Played Fixer Upper

Most of the non-blogger men that I know in Second Life don’t change their look too often. They don’t really have to. They can put together a couple of casual looks, a formal look, and that can get them through most things. The funny part is that some of them didn’t even really put those looks together themselves – they had a partner to do it!

My own SL husband is not really an exception to this. Oh, he loves to shop. When we first met, he had a lot of outfits and costumes and even did some modeling here and there. But when mesh came out, and mesh bodies in particular, things got a little harder. It was like that for a ton of people, by the way. Go to any live show or older club in SL and you’ll find a lot of people who simply can’t get down with mesh and utterly refuse to even entertain the possibility. To them, mesh is still a passing phase, despite the fact that we’ve had it since 2011. Luckily, Aldwyn doesn’t go THAT far! I’d never stand for it! But since January 2016, he’s looked like this.

Aldwyn, October 2017

Now don’t get me wrong. This is a good look! He wore the Catwa Jackson head with the Hugh skin applier from The Skinnery. And I’m a fan of older men, so you know I was totally into it!

But there are some problems with looking older in Second Life that we didn’t anticipate when putting together this look. The main one being…it’s freaking hard to dress an older guy!! Seriously, go take a look at basically every men’s store in SL. The clothes are generally geared towards guys who are under 35 years old. Unless he wanted to wear a suit all of the time (which I wasn’t against, tbh) there were very few options for someone who looks 50+. And add that to the fact that the more “trendy” pieces like the ugly dropped crotch diaper pants and oversized tank tops that reach the knees were/are at every event and we hate that look… well, dressing was not all that fun.

When LeLutka came out with the Andrea head for men, I was into it. I knew I wanted to take Aldwyn younger again, because I tend to look a bit younger in SL and while I’m still into older men, I thought maybe it was time for both of us to look near the same age again. Plus, his head was not bento, and if I’m going to be bento, he’s going to be bento because that’s just the way it works. Not to mention, I adore the LeLutka HUD so so so much more than the Catwa HUDs for their heads, and I knew he would like it, too.

If you watched my vlog from yesterday (I’ll link it at the bottom of this post), you know that he gave me carte blanche to play Fixer Upper on his avatar yesterday! So I took him to…

LeLutka… To get the Andrea head. (5000L)

Stray Dog… To get the Breno head applier, plus a skin applier for his body. He uses the Slink Physique body and Stray Dog does not make a skin applier specifically for Slink, only for Signature and Belleza. However, the Signature body applier can be used on Slink if you have the Slink omega relay. So that’s what I did. (590L for the head applier, 490L for the body applier.)

Stealthic… To get the Like Lust hair. (300L)

I created his shape myself based off of what he already had, but just made adjustments to his head to keep the bento head from looking like the mouth had collapsed in on itself. I’ve found that this is the case with most bento heads.

So the grand total for everything… 6380L, or about $27 USD.

Totally. Worth. Every. Penny.

I Made A Handsome.

I did take him to get a few clothing items, too, and oh my gosh. It’s so much easier to dress him with a younger face.

Well, except for the fact that people are starting to only create for the Signature and Belleza bodies, and not for Slink.

But that’s a struggle for another day.

If you didn’t know, I’m doing Vlogmas! If you want to see me taking Aldwyn’s avatar to get his makeover, along with looking at a couple of Advent gifts and dealing with some Christmas “decorations” that Groves left for us, feel free to watch!