Day 237 – Not the decorating kind

I spent the evening with 2 of my favorite people just lounging on the beach behind my house.

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My beach isn’t really ready yet. Not the way I picture it in my head, anyway. But really, does any decorating or landscaping idea I have in my head ever actually pan out? LOL Not usually. Sometimes it comes out better, sometimes worse. But I suppose that could be said for almost anything in life, am I right?

I have never been a great decorator in my physical world. My home has simply always just been…there. I took vague interest in decorating my room when I was 14 because it was, for the first time in my life, MY room. No sisters to share with me. My mom and dad let me paint the brown wood walls a bright white. I chose blue accessories. The second twin bed was dismantled and they placed the second mattresses on top of mine so I had this “Princess & The Pea” type of bed. It was so tall off the ground… I loved it. I had porcelain dolls and in those days I collected miniature tea sets. It was the perfect girl room.

For about 3 months, anyway. Then I went to high school and the walls became littered with awards and pictures of friends and papers reminding me about this rehearsal or that game. I didn’t think about interior decorating again for quite some time. When I moved in with my boyfriend, our apartment was much too small for any big decorating, and our house is … well, it’s just our house. I made some curtains for the bathroom and put some things up on the mantel and that has been about it. I’m NOT a decorator. I guess that’s what I’m getting at. LOL It’s late, sorry for the rambling.

But, I’m getting into it here in SL. If you read the current issue of Icon, a room I did is in there. If you don’t read magazines, here’s a couple of pictures from the shoot.

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If I could have that bedroom set down in my physical world house, I’d be one happy girl.

Okay, enough rambling. Kudos if you managed to read all of it. If you just looked at the pics, hey, that’s all good too. πŸ™‚

Day 171 – Oh So Social!

Omg, I’m getting tired. lol I promise I’ll respond to my comments later. πŸ™‚

Remember back in 2008, I used to do the “Oh look, she’s tall?” posts? I stopped doing them mostly because I grew a little and the trend became these tiny little avatars. But, the glamazons seem to be returning. I TPed in to look at some jewelry and…well, as one of my friends put it, I could have motorboated her butt.

Ooh gurrrrrlllll

After that little scare, my new friend Runestar pulled me out of my house and we went to Rouge to listen to some house music and chat with Codie, Gabby, and others. πŸ™‚

Rouge w/Rune

It was pretty fun! Afterwards, we went on home tours of each others’ homes, and then we headed off to Patience Larkham’s birthday party. My plurk friend Kelley was DJing!

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I had a blast because some of the group came out to party! We don’t get together enough at ALL. We really really don’t.

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Heidi, Blackhawk, and Eva came out to party. My new plurk friend Landon showed up, too, plus a few other plurkers that I know. It was awesome! Just so much fun to be together. πŸ™‚ Rune even ended up joining my group. Nikki mentioned the PDOD & I had to explain what it is. He didn’t run off screaming, so I’m guessing he’ll be sticking around.

After the party broke up, I went home to change and Landon took me to SLeek, which I have not been to in … oh gosh, well well over a year. It was laggy as usual, and I had to mute most everyone there, but it’s been pretty fun getting to chat with my new pal. πŸ™‚

Sleek w/Landon

I’m pretty tired, so I think I’m going to wrap things up in world and head to bed. As an introvert, all this socializing is wearing me down. If I had a little battery over my head, like on my phone, it would be telling me I had only 20% battery life left. LOL But I had a very fun night, so it’s all worth it. πŸ™‚

Day 167 – Just dance

So I was out at Earthstones earlier, having found a gift card in my overstuffed inventory, when I encountered their phonographs. Oh so cute! I started playing songs and there was an intan sitting in the corner. What’s a girl to do? I pulled my alt Aidan on and we danced!

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I really like the phonographs, I think they’re well done [as to be expected from Earthstones], but they’re not something I’d buy for myself. I’m sure there’s a gifty type holiday coming up, so I’ll just keep it in mind. LOL

My good friend Noel came over later to hang out. I haven’t actually seen him in world in… oh gosh, well over a month, if not more. So it was great to catch up with him for a bit.

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He’s one of the few guys in SL who has been around me for an extended amount of time and still doesn’t mind hanging out. :-p Kidding, kidding.

Kinda.

Anyway… I finally put out a post for the style blog, which I’m happy about. I was doing good there for a while and then I lost it. Hopefully I can get back into it.

And tomorrow – Trivia Tuesday!!!! 7pm at my place. If you’re a plurk friend, you’ll get the SLurl there. If not, just IM me if you want to drop by. I’ll DJ and it’s usually a pretty fun time. πŸ™‚

I bought 5 new books tonight [hello, Half Price Books clearance section! I love you!] so I think I’m going to wrap this up and read.

Yes, every day

This is probably going to be one of those rambling, thinking, opinionated posts, so if you already have your panties in a wad, you might want to just skip on by. πŸ™‚

Almost every day, I hear someone say “I’m not happy with Second Life anymore!” Usually they do something different to change their situation. In rare instances, that person stops logging in on a regular basis. In even rarer instances, that person leaves altogether. And I mean, actually LEAVES, as in SL is off their computer, good bye, see ya later, never log in ever again.

I’ve been in Second Life a while now. I’ve had good times, and I’ve had some really terrible times too. But I still love it. I log in every day excited to see what is going on.

It kind of reminds me of something Charlotte said in the Sex & The City movie regarding being happy in her relationship. “Well, not all day every day. But yes, every day.”

That’s how I feel. I’m not happy with it all day every day, but yes…happy every day. There are things I’m not always happy with in SL. There are things I would change if I could. But I keep coming back because I love it.

So that brings me to the more opinionated part of my post. If you DON’T enjoy it, why are you still logging in? What makes you keep coming back to something you don’t care about? Why are you lagging us down with your presence when you don’t even care to be there? People say, “Oh, I come back to talk to friends.” But if your friends are still happy in SL, do you think it does them any good to hear you whine and complain about how over SL you are? There are lots of email and IM services you could use to keep up with people.

I’m fairly fortunate to have people around me that love it as much as I do. If you’re unhappy with it, maybe it’s time to change your situation. After all, no one says you have to be here.

Episode 1064: The One Where She Gets Mushy

Um. I just realized I passed the 1000 post mark a while back. Damn, I was going to actually do a big post for that. *sighs*

Happy Thanksgiving to those of you in the US, and everywhere else too because giving thanks is definitely something all of us should do every morning we wake up. πŸ™‚ No, not in a religious way if that’s not the way you swing, but just in a “Yes! I get to be alive and kicking one more day!!”

I woke up pretty early today to cook because I’m heading over to my parents’ house for lunch, and although they have the “main” portion of our meal over there, I wanted to bring a couple of things too. While I was smashing sweet potatoes, I was thinking about how different my life has been over the past couple of years. [It’s my rezday, although I don’t actively celebrate it.]

A couple of years ago, I was a mess. If you’re close to me, you know the story already, and if you’re don’t…well, you probably don’t really need to. lol But I was a huge mess. A lot of it had to do with just never getting over my oldest sister’s death back in 1999. I probably should have had counseling back then, but I’d chosen to just drug myself up and go about my business. But the problem was, I wasn’t really going about MY business. I was trying to be everything that everyone wanted me to be and when I started to realize that I couldn’t do it, I started to crack. Drugs weren’t enough anymore. I was numb and I was scared and I thank God that I had someone who picked me up off the floor. I certainly couldn’t have done it myself at that moment.

In the past 2 years, I have changed, and grown, and I am more myself now than I have been since before 1999. I honestly LIKE who I am for the first time in probably 12 years. And in liking who I am, I find that I have more to give to people now. But the funny thing? The people I surround myself now don’t expect me to give them anything. When I find myself slipping back into the “What can I do for you today?” type thing with my friends, their answer is always “Nothing. We just want you.” And that is something that I am exceptionally grateful for, and I give thanks every single day for it. If my old friends were like that too, it is my fault for never seeing it, and I will admit that.

So what am I grateful for this Thanksgiving? Almost too many things to mention, so we’ll just go with the [mostly] SL things. I’m grateful for the wonderful people of the Ch’Know group, both past and present members. What started out as just a way for me to change my tag blossomed into some of the most amazing friendships I could have ever asked for. I’m grateful for my Sophia. Yes, she is loud, and she is bossy, and she is one of the strongest personalities I’ve ever known. But someone like me needs someone like her, and I’m grateful each and every day that I have her in my life. I’m grateful for the people that took me in when I was first starting out here, even if I don’t see or talk to them much [or at all] anymore. Cen, Sam, Rick, the whole Viper Pit family. They taught me what it meant to just have fun again, to let my guard down and just be me, because that’s all they ever asked of me. I’m grateful for the readers of this blog. You all have warmed my heart so many times with comments, IMs, or notecards telling me this or that. You all have pushed me to become a better blogger, a stronger writer, and a more active participant of Second Life. Even when I think that I’m finished, that I have nothing more to say, someone reminds me that I’m not done.

I’ve cried about 4 times now while writing this. I am such a sap!! LOL!

Have a wonderful holiday if you celebrate it, or just a wonderful Thursday if you don’t. I’ll be back later tonight so you all can tease me about crying during a blogpost. πŸ™‚

Girl, get your bloggin’ on!

As I’m getting ready for my 30 Days of Thanks & Blogs, I keep coming across all kinds of things I want to talk about NOW. But I keep telling myself to save it, because I’ve gotten writer’s block before, and how sad would it be if I ran out of things to say on day 5?

But, I do want to talk about something today. Now, I’m not a marketing professional, I don’t have a degree in business, nothing like that. But I am HIGHLY susceptible to marketing. Hell, sometimes all a person has to do is mention cheeseburgers, and I’m running out the door to McDonalds.

However, I get annoyed by bad marketing really easily. Tell me you are having a sale, and it’s very likely that I will run to check it out. Tell me you’re having a sale EVERY FIFTEEN MINUTES FOR THREE HOURS and I will run to your store to get OUT of your subscribe-o-matic or trip over my own fingers to get out of your group.

There are stores in SL that apparently went to the Lemania Indigo “Girl, get your spam on” Academy of Marketing. This doesn’t make people want to shop at your store! In fact, it comes off as so desperate, people start to wonder why you feel the need to remind people very 30 minutes that you exist.

[Also? You don’t want to be compared to Lemania Indigo. Ever.]

I had to leave a SoM yesterday because I just couldn’t handle it anymore. I think the designers of the store are very talented, and at one point I think I had bought every single dress the place had to offer, but enough was enough. It wasn’t even just daily notices anymore, they were flying in sometimes more than 3 times a day. I can’t do that. It annoys me. All I was doing was declining their flurry of notecards and textures anyway.

If I’m in your group/SoM – tell me when you have new releases, tell me when you have a sale, and maybe award me for being in your group with a gift now and then. Put your store in your picks and maybe do the $50L classified too so it’s easier for me to see, and honey, you will have a customer for life. That’s my $2L on it.

In other news, I’m going to be one of the Shoe Expo bloggers!! I’m really excited about it because I’ve never done expo blogging before. I hope I don’t make an ass out of myself. But…hey, even if I do, it’s entertainment. LOL

Last night was the Thorne-Darwin Halloween party and it was a BLAST! I had such a good time. Lalo Telling took pictures, which you can see in his Picasa album. But I’ll show my picture off because I love it. πŸ™‚

I’m sure there’s other pictures out there because it was a PACKED house and it was mostly bloggers and plurkers, so I know there’s more pics out there. πŸ™‚

I don’t usually DJ two nights in a row, but I couldn’t resist when my friend Gwendolyn asked if I would like to come DJ at the Jittery Junco Coffee House for their Halloween party tonight. I’ll be there at 7pm SLT tonight for about an hour or so. If you want to get more use out of your costume, I’d love to see you there! The actual theme is League of Extraordinary Dorks, so come nerdy if you want, or just come! πŸ™‚ Gwen said she’s not being nerdy, but heck, I think I might.

I think it’s time to sneak some Halloween candy!

La Shy Girl & some other stuff :)

I haven’t been updating quite as much lately because I’m gearing up for my personal blogging challenge next month. 30 days of updates and things I’m grateful for! Woooo! LOL But! Some things must be said.

First up, I was super excited when blogger/builder Josue Habana asked me to do his 5 Questions and Shameless Plug interview. Go read it, I’ll wait.

Done? Ok.

Anyway, that was pretty cool, so thanks for asking me to do that, Josue! He makes some pretty cool [and FREE] skyboxes, so check out his stuff on XStreet. Some of you may have seen his work before because I’ve used a couple of his skyboxes for party rooms. πŸ™‚

Tomorrow is the Thorne-Darwin Halloween Party!! I’m DJing it and Tymm & Jerremy have set up a pretty awesome area for the party, so don’t miss it!

So earlier on plurk today, someone wondered how a shy guy could be in SL and not feel lonely, because even when he DID go out with his small group of friends, they were usually in IMs. It really made me think because although most people don’t realize it, I’m actually really terribly shy. I’m not AS bad as I once was, but … yeah, it’s still there.

Shy people are always going to have to work a little harder in SL than other people because we will get overlooked by the louder, more social crowd. It’s not that different from the physical world, really. But in a world where so many people come in, drop all their inhibitions at the door, and get wild – those of us who are shy can very easily be pushed into a corner and forgotten.

We also have to work at keeping the friendships once we get them, because we almost never IM anyone first. We never want to be a bother. Even though we’re told time & time again that we’re NOT, it takes a while before we can move past that.

Like I said, I am very shy. Some people mistake this for being aloof, or snobby, or think that I simply don’t like/care about them. Nope. That’s not it at all.

I get a little jealous sometimes when I see people who are always hanging out with others, who are loud and funny, who go to all the parties and are friends with pretty much everyone they meet. I’ve been told [in the physical world] that I’m anti-social. No, I would love to be more social, but I have a hard time just hanging out with people because I always feel like I have to be entertaining them. Ask me how many parties I’ve been to in the past year that I haven’t DJed at or stayed longer than 10 minutes. The answer is VERY slim. When you’re shy, you don’t always feel welcome at parties.

There are times when I push past it, when I IM someone first or ask someone to go do something. But even then, I spend the first half of our time together uncomfortable and wondering if they’re waiting for me to be entertaining. It usually leads to me just not saying anything at all, which…well, that’s probably weird. lol

Oh, this isn’t some big “Omg, please IM me and help me” post. I’m simply saying that if you know someone who doesn’t IM you often or doesn’t talk much, don’t think that they don’t like you. They may just be really shy.

If you’re the shy one… All I can say is that if you’re lucky enough to have one friend who understands your problem, don’t ever ever let them go. πŸ™‚

Ok, I need food. And sleep. I think I got 2 and a half hours last night altogether. But watch…you’ll see me online tonight at 2am anyway.

I have issues.