The Day I Played Fixer Upper

Most of the non-blogger men that I know in Second Life don’t change their look too often. They don’t really have to. They can put together a couple of casual looks, a formal look, and that can get them through most things. The funny part is that some of them didn’t even really put those looks together themselves – they had a partner to do it!

My own SL husband is not really an exception to this. Oh, he loves to shop. When we first met, he had a lot of outfits and costumes and even did some modeling here and there. But when mesh came out, and mesh bodies in particular, things got a little harder. It was like that for a ton of people, by the way. Go to any live show or older club in SL and you’ll find a lot of people who simply can’t get down with mesh and utterly refuse to even entertain the possibility. To them, mesh is still a passing phase, despite the fact that we’ve had it since 2011. Luckily, Aldwyn doesn’t go THAT far! I’d never stand for it! But since January 2016, he’s looked like this.

Now don’t get me wrong. This is a good look! He wore the Catwa Jackson head with the Hugh skin applier from The Skinnery. And I’m a fan of older men, so you know I was totally into it!

But there are some problems with looking older in Second Life that we didn’t anticipate when putting together this look. The main one being…it’s freaking hard to dress an older guy!! Seriously, go take a look at basically every men’s store in SL. The clothes are generally geared towards guys who are under 35 years old. Unless he wanted to wear a suit all of the time (which I wasn’t against, tbh) there were very few options for someone who looks 50+. And add that to the fact that the more “trendy” pieces like the ugly dropped crotch diaper pants and oversized tank tops that reach the knees were/are at every event and we hate that look… well, dressing was not all that fun.

When LeLutka came out with the Andrea head for men, I was into it. I knew I wanted to take Aldwyn younger again, because I tend to look a bit younger in SL and while I’m still into older men, I thought maybe it was time for both of us to look near the same age again. Plus, his head was not bento, and if I’m going to be bento, he’s going to be bento because that’s just the way it works. Not to mention, I adore the LeLutka HUD so so so much more than the Catwa HUDs for their heads, and I knew he would like it, too.

If you watched my vlog from yesterday (I’ll link it at the bottom of this post), you know that he gave me carte blanche to play Fixer Upper on his avatar yesterday! So I took him to…

LeLutka… To get the Andrea head. (5000L)

Stray Dog… To get the Breno head applier, plus a skin applier for his body. He uses the Slink Physique body and Stray Dog does not make a skin applier specifically for Slink, only for Signature and Belleza. However, the Signature body applier can be used on Slink if you have the Slink omega relay. So that’s what I did. (590L for the head applier, 490L for the body applier.)

Stealthic… To get the Like Lust hair. (300L)

I created his shape myself based off of what he already had, but just made adjustments to his head to keep the bento head from looking like the mouth had collapsed in on itself. I’ve found that this is the case with most bento heads.

So the grand total for everything… 6380L, or about $27 USD.

Totally. Worth. Every. Penny.

I did take him to get a few clothing items, too, and oh my gosh. It’s so much easier to dress him with a younger face.

Well, except for the fact that people are starting to only create for the Signature and Belleza bodies, and not for Slink.

But that’s a struggle for another day.

If you didn’t know, I’m doing Vlogmas! If you want to see me taking Aldwyn’s avatar to get his makeover, along with looking at a couple of Advent gifts and dealing with some Christmas “decorations” that Groves left for us, feel free to watch!

We Could Be Related

One of the things I said I wouldn’t do for a LONG time, if ever, was get a mesh head. I know, I know. If you’ve known me for any length of time, you know that I was one of the first to hop all aboard the mesh train when it came out in 2011. In fact, the day it rolled live, I blogged one of the first mesh dresses that came out that day. If you joined SL after 2012, you don’t know how crazy the mesh revolution was. How nothing fit properly, how standard sizing changed a lot of how we looked, how a simple couch could have eaten up 100 prims of your parcel allotment, or why we still refer to things as mesh, rather than just calling it what it is, or just how many designers we lost when mesh came out because they were unable – or unwilling – to keep up and learn how to make it.

I don’t think we quite realized the impact mesh would make on Second Life. In fact, in that blog post, I’m quoted as saying, “Yes, mesh gives us some great things, but there will always ALWAYS be the need for regular prims, textures and sculpties.”

Hahahahaha! Oh.

I was thrilled to wear mesh clothing. I was even more thrilled to get new mesh furniture that wasn’t 12 prims [or Land Impact for you newbies] for a simple pillow. I danced with joy to dump my sculpted feet and put on mesh ones. I waved my sad system hands in the air for the last time and slipped on pretty mesh ones. I loved the way I no longer had to Photoshop my pointed calves and square butt once I got a mesh body.

But heads? OH HECK NO.

I loved my avatar’s face. I am one of those rare bloggers in SL who has never changed skins too often just because once I look like “me,” that’s kind of it for me for a while. I like to look and feel like myself. I’ve always demoed a lot of skins for fun, but when it comes to day to day SLiving, I like being me. So the thought of covering my face with a head that didn’t really look like ME? Pfft. No, thank you. I did demo some but none felt right to me. I liked the way I looked and that’s that.

While we were on our last vacation, Aldwyn [who was WAY quicker to get into a mesh head than I would have expected] decided that I needed a mesh head. I believe the conversation went something like this:

Aldwyn: You need one.

Me: But whyyyyyyyyyy?????

Aldwyn: Because.

Me: I don’t want it.

Aldwyn: I don’t care.

* You have received a gift! *

Me: …this isn’t the one I wanted.

So he bought me two heads that night, LOGO’s Alex and Chloe. And, being me, I decided that if he was going to spend the money on me, I was certainly not going to let it go to waste. So I put on the Chloe head and told myself not to take it off for at least a week.

It’s been over a week. *laughs*

Surprisingly enough, I fell in love with the thing. I wear no appliers because the base skin is perfect for how I want to look. I hadn’t really seen my system face in months. But I decided to give it a look last night, and then couldn’t resist taking a side by side picture with myself. [It’s not perfect. I’m not great at the cloning thing.]

I still like my system face. But… goodness, I look SO much younger! I feel like my mesh head looks polished and older, while the system face is someone you’d find hanging out at the beach on spring break. Or like my system headed self is my younger sister who was trying to hit on my husband. LOL! My plurk friends say that both are similar, and they are in some ways, I guess. I think I can tell more of a difference just because I’ve spent the past however many years staring at myself.

Have you switched to a mesh head yet? Which ones do you like? If you haven’t done it, why not? Do you plan on it? I have questions! 🙂

Caught Off Guard

Last night was a “free” vacation night, so I decided to take advantage of that and get our official spring family photo done. We usually do an official picture twice a year – spring and fall. Well, and our winter/Christmas photo. I have all our official photos on a wall in our house, starting with Aldwyn’s and my wedding photo. I love that particular wall of photos since I get to see our transition from it just being him and me to …. Well, this!

If you think it’s easy finding decent poses for 2 parents and 4 kids, you’d be wrong. *laughs* Luckily this gem was at the Pose Fair and I’ve been saving it for our spring photo. I think it came out pretty well, and I was happy that we did it on vacation so that along with being our first “real” photo as a family of 6, we also have a great memory attached to it.

So while I was working on the picture, Aldwyn and I were talking and he mentioned what some others have mentioned – It’s weird that he has a mesh head and I don’t. *laughs* Because as a blogger, you know. I’m supposed to be all on top of that stuff. But I’m a strange blogger because I will find a skin I like and just stick with it. For ages. For a longggg time. I just like being me, I guess. I do have a few heads from Genesis that I got from blogging for events or from a gacha, but it was just for blogging really. I mean, yeah, a lot of skin makers are only doing appliers for heads now, or at least doing them more often than a full skin. But I never could justify buying a head when I wasn’t quite sure I wanted to wear it full time. But then before I knew it, I was caught off guard as a head ended up in my inventory, courtesy of my husband who says he never gets to buy me anything.

Only…it wasn’t really the one I wanted. *laughs* I mean, I can use it for blogging! Believe me. It’s the Alex head from LOGO and tons of skin makers are making things just for that head. But I liked the Chloe one better because just with the base skin, it felt more like me. And … then Chloe ended up in my inventory, too. Welp.

So now I have a mesh head! I’m still not used to it. I went down to the store and picked up the other two expression packs for it, and a pack of lipsticks. I have spent a ton of time just staring at it. I think I like it. I don’t know really. I’m sure I’ll get used to it in time.

But Birdy made us all laugh last night after I got the head. “Did we really just take our picture and now she changed her face?!”

Blame your dad!!

My Christmas Wish

‘Cause I just want you here tonight
Holding on to me so tight.
What more can I do?
Baby, all I want for Christmas is you.

This is our 5th Christmas together. I know, right?? I just had to go back through my blog to see if I had miscounted, even though I was counting on my fingers. But yep, our 5th Christmas. Even though I told him that all the Arcade stuff he got me is present enough, he still wanted to get me something else. I am easy to buy gifts for because I truly appreciate anything people give me. But I’m also quite hard to buy gifts for because I blog for a lot of my favorite stores already, plus I shop quite a bit on my own! So when he wants to give me something, it has to be something I wouldn’t normally buy for myself. Today Maitreya released their new mesh body. As soon as we signed on tonight, he dragged me down there to buy it. 🙂 I was planning on demoing it at some point but I already have the Slink Physique and only seem to wear that when I’m wearing things that show my legs. And not to mention that Pink Fuel doesn’t have appliers for it yet. But he didn’t care. He said it could sit in my inventory if I wanted, but he was buying it for me.

Who am I to argue?

We went home and I played around with it. I don’t wear Glam Affair skins [which are already preloaded into the HUD], but I happened to have some old ones from an event last year, plus the Slink appliers for one of the tones. It’s really a very nice body, and I like the alpha options. But until Pink Fuel does appliers for it, it’s not something I’ll wear often. Plus, let’s face it. I wear a lot of big sweaters and jeans. There’s basically so reason to wear a mesh body when you’re wearing that stuff.

But there are good reasons to have mesh bodies, too. Like when you want to wear pretty, skimpy clothes while smooching on the man who has been good to you for 5 Christmases. And while you kiss him, you make your Christmas wish that there will be more Christmases together in the future.

Day 235 – I’m Closer To That Place

So my husband, bless his heart, has to put up with me being a blogger. And not just a regular blogger, but a fashion blogger, which is pretty scary. It means any gifts he buys me, he has to first double check that I haven’t gotten it from a review pack. It means almost anywhere he goes in our home or on our land, he’s stumbling over posestands and wondering why a tent would be half embedded in a tree. [It’s for a picture, honey! That’s how it looked best!] It means that no matter how many platforms or blogger rooms I have, he’s likely to log in in the middle of a pile of boxes because I tend to just open stuff wherever I’m standing. And worst of all, sometimes he logs in for a relaxing evening with me and immediately I’m telling him to change his clothes and get on a poseball. Tonight I had to tell him “I hate your feet. I’m putting us in the water so your feet don’t show.”

But, to his credit, he humors me and so we set upon an epic adventure of tinting some new feet he bought. Aldwyn has never had to tint feet before, so it WAS an adventure! I SO SO SO hope that one day, men have wonderful mesh parts like we women do and the appliers, too! [Well, mesh hands and feet. They already have…other parts.]

It’s not a perfect match, of course, because tinting rarely is given that you don’t get JUST the right shade or highlights, but it’s close enough!

This isn’t the photo that I was planning on using for the fashion blog, by the way. That one hasn’t been edited yet because I’m super lazy. Lazy fashion bloggers 4/Life!

By the way, if you see Aldwyn out and about, feel free to give him gifts. He totally deserves them for putting up with me. LOL!